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The Wedding Guru Judy Lewis fields this week's wedding questions. Today: What to do when you’re (kind of... not really) invited to join the wedding party

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Sometimes brides behave badly, considering only themselves and not their guests. This often puts a friend or family member in a very awkward position.

A Valley wedding guest asks: “A close family friend is getting married and mentioned to her mom and I that I would be in her wedding party. I was excited by the thought of participating! However... the wedding’s in June and the bride-to-be still hasn’t contacted me about any of the details, such as what dress she’ll want me to wear. I asked her mom (MOB) several times about the dresses and whether I’m still in the wedding, but her reply is that she’s staying out of it. Do I assume that she forgot about me? Or that she’s dropped me from the wedding party? Should I contact the bride and find out what’s up? I want to do the right thing and I would hate to lose the friendship, so please tell me what you think I should do.”

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Tying the knot shouldn't put knots in your stomach, so whether you're the blushing bride, hubby-to-be, or even a wedding guest, The Wedding Guru Judy Lewis can answer all of your wedding-related questions.

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