Barely-There Affair: What’s Wrong with Having a Small Wedding?
Answer: Nothing. Unfortunately, the family of this bride-to-be disagrees
By Judy Lewis
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This week’s query prompted me to look up the definition of the word “wedding.” The dictionary defines it as “the social event at which the ceremony of marriage is performed,” “the act of marrying,” and “the ceremony or celebration of a marriage.” Regardless of how you define it, it’s certainly a milestone between two people who commit themselves to one another.
A Hudson Valley bride asks: “My fiancé and I have been living together for several years, and we’ve finally decided to get married. I thought that marriage was a personal event between partners, so we’ve only invited a few people to share the event with us. Now we’re getting terrible feedback from both family and friends who are disappointed and hurt because we limited our guest list. (We’ve been invited or a part of the weddings of some of these people.) They are “incredulous” (their words, not mine) about not being able to participate in our wedding! I feel we should be able to get married the way we want, not the way they want. What can I do so that my family and friends aren’t angry with me, instead of being happy for me?”
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