Holy Cow: I’m Planning My Vegan Wedding and My Family Is Boycotting the Menu — Help!
A bridal couple with strong culinary convictions finds resistance with their party’s financiers
By Judy Lewis
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One of the reasons that wedding planning often becomes tense and stressful is that prospective bridal couples use the event to act independently from their parents. Even couples who have been on their own for years often become more rigid and vocal about “doing it their way.” This stance makes head-bumping between couples and their parents an all too common occurrence!
A Hudson Valley bride asks: “My fiancé and I are planning our wedding, and we both want a vegan rehearsal dinner and wedding reception. It’s what we believe in and what we practice in our daily lives, both together and separately. Unfortunately, my mother is simply beside herself. She keeps telling me that ‘they’ are hosting the wedding and want all of ‘their’ guests to enjoy the food. (She insists that a vegan event will compromise the quality of the food.) I understand that my parents are footing the bill, but we are grownups and it is our wedding. We feel that it should be our decision to make. We don’t want to choose between our relationship with my mother and our philosophical beliefs. What can we do?”
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