Holy Cow: I’m Planning My Vegan Wedding and My Family Is Boycotting the Menu — Help!

A bridal couple with strong culinary convictions finds resistance with their party’s financiers



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Dear bride-to-be: First, let me assure you that this is your wedding and you should be able to do it your way! Because your parents are footing the bill, a little soft sell might be necessary. Look for a really good caterer who has a lot of experience with vegan weddings. (You should ask for references and personally check them out; take a peek at their menu and try some of the items to make sure they suit your tastes.) Once you’re satisfied with serving all your guests (even the non-vegan ones) this kind of food, chat up your parents again. Tell them what you learned from the references, and even make an appointment for them to meet with the caterer.

If, despite your efforts, you fail to convince them, you may wish to compromise by having a vegan rehearsal dinner and a “regular” reception (or vice-versa). If you don’t want to make that concession — and your parents refuse to accommodate your culinary preferences — you may have to consider hosting and paying for the events yourself. Think very carefully about how much of a battle you are willing to fight and what the immediate and long-term consequences of your actions may be. Then do what your heart and mind tell you to do!

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Congratulations — you're involved in a wedding! Tying the knot shouldn't put knots in your stomach, so whether you're the blushing bride or hubby-to-be, an attendant or a guest, Wedding Guru Judy Lewis can answer all your need-to-know questions about your nuptials.

Judy Lewis is the founder of HudsonValleyWeddings.com, the one-stop resource for services and products, promotions and specials, a Regional Bridal Show schedule, Wed Shop, and links to money-saving and wedding-related Web sites. In her spare time, Judy loves to compose poetry and create collages. She currently resides in Kingston with her husband and business partner, Jon.

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