I’m Engaged — And My Friends are Enraged
One newly engaged bride didn’t anticipate this reaction from her friends
By Judy Lewis
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The Wedding Guru answers: This problem is not yours alone. Unfortunately, I’ve heard of several occasions where friends — sometimes even really close ones — react blandly or negatively upon hearing engagement news from one of their pals. It’s hard to say exactly what is the motivation of your friends’ ill will. Perhaps some of your single girlfriends are envious of your newfound status? Or, they’re jealous of all the attention you’re getting. As often is the case, some friends feel hurt about being “replaced” by your future husband.
Here’s my suggestion: After they cool off, invite some of the naysayers out for drinks or lunch. Assure them that your being engaged doesn’t mean you’ll give up your friendship. (Also remind them that, especially over the next few months, their friendship and support will be invaluable to you.) If that doesn’t help, hopefully time will heal their wounds. In the meantime, stay away from anyone who wants to dampen your joy. This is one of the best times of your life, and nobody should be allowed to impact on it negatively!
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