How to Include an Estranged Family Member at Your Wedding

Weddings are supposed to unite — not divide. So what do you do when the presence of an estranged family member is required?

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It may be difficult to please everyone, but it’s up to you to try to do so when planning your wedding — especially when it concerns a member of your immediate families. Keeping lines of communication open is the best way to get the best results.

A Hudson Valley bride asks: My husband’s older brother has decided not to participate in our wedding party. It’s not important why, but his reasons go way back in his relationship to my future husband and, unfortunately, there seems to be no way to change his mind. We need to choose someone to walk my future mother-in-law down the aisle. This is all about making her comfortable (even if it makes us uncomfortable). Who should escort her? If she wants her ‘estranged’ son to do so, should we be okay with that? I want to do everything I can to start off on the right foot with my future mother-in-law.”

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About This Blog

Congratulations — you're involved in a wedding! Tying the knot shouldn't put knots in your stomach, so whether you're the blushing bride or hubby-to-be, an attendant or a guest, Wedding Guru Judy Lewis can answer all your need-to-know questions about your nuptials.

Judy Lewis is the founder of, the one-stop resource for services and products, promotions and specials, a Regional Bridal Show schedule, Wed Shop, and links to money-saving and wedding-related Web sites. In her spare time, Judy loves to compose poetry and create collages. She currently resides in Kingston with her husband and business partner, Jon.



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