Offspring Equality: Should Parents Give the Same Wedding Gift to Sons As Their Daughters?

The Wedding Guru Judy Lewis fields this week's wedding questions. Today: Should parents give the same amount as a wedding gift to sons as their daughters?



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Parents often struggle in an attempt to treat their children equally. Because circumstances differ — and the children themselves are different people — this becomes difficult when approaching parents’ financial “responsibility” regarding their kids’ weddings. The decisions that parents make can often influence their relationships afterward.

Dear Wedding Guru: “Our daughter's wedding cost about $10,000, and we also gave her and our son-in-law $2,000 as a wedding gift. Since we’ll spend considerably less on our son's wedding — we’re paying only for the rehearsal dinner, alcohol, groom’s cake (if he wants one), and some of the corsages and boutonnieres — we’re not sure how much we should give our son and future daughter-in-law as a wedding gift. I think we should give more than what we gave our daughter to ‘make up’ for the money we spent on her wedding. We don’t want to do the wrong thing. Can you help?”

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Congratulations — you're involved in a wedding! Tying the knot shouldn't put knots in your stomach, so whether you're the blushing bride or hubby-to-be, an attendant or a guest, Wedding Guru Judy Lewis can answer all your need-to-know questions about your nuptials.

Judy Lewis is the founder of HudsonValleyWeddings.com, the one-stop resource for services and products, promotions and specials, a Regional Bridal Show schedule, Wed Shop, and links to money-saving and wedding-related Web sites. In her spare time, Judy loves to compose poetry and create collages. She currently resides in Kingston with her husband and business partner, Jon.

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