Paying for a Wedding: Divorced Mom and Dad Split the Cost... Sort Of

This mother-of-the-groom feels her ex isn’t putting in his fair share — and it could affect her cash gift



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The Wedding Guru says: Will it make you feel better if I tell you all the horror stories about ex-husbands who refuse to contribute to their children’s weddings, but attend — and in some cases, ask to bring guests for whom they will not pay? So, I guess you can consider yourself lucky and take whatever he gives you, even though you may feel it’s unfair (which it is).

As for giving your son and future daughter-in-law wedding gift, I believe that paying for the wedding is sufficient enough. In your case, you’re also paying for the shower and the honeymoon. (I’ve only heard of very few mothers-of-the-groom who pay for the honeymoon.) You absolutely aren’t obligated to give them a cash gift, but if you feel that you need to do that, make it a small one, for your sake! I hope that your son knows what a wonderful mom he has. Good luck to you and to the future bridal couple.

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